Turning Bitterness into Blessings
Turning Bitterness into Blessings
Ephesians 4 : 30-32
A woman came home one day and found her four children huddled in the den around something very interesting. She tip-toed over to see what it was and saw that they had brought four baby skunks into the house and were admiring them on the floor. She screamed, which frightened the children and the skunks. The children said, “Mother, what is the matter?” She replied with a command, “Run, run outside as fast as you can.” The children promptly jumped up to run; however, each one took a skunk with him!
Sometimes when we are trying to escape hurt, hardship and danger, we take the problem with us. That is what happens to a person who becomes bitter. You cannot run away from it, for it is with you all the time. This post is to assist you on how to leave the foul odor or bitterness behind us. This is important, for bitterness can stay with us for a lifetime, making us miserable.
Bitterness leaves a deep mark which is displeases to God and damaging to us. Lets look at How To Turn Your Bitterness Into Blessings.
I. THE CONDEMNATION OF BITTERNESS
Clearly the Bible condemns bitterness. Many passages state that we are not to hold a grudge against another person. We are told in another passage that vengeance belongs to the Lord, He will repay. Granted, this is not speaking of legal matters where broken contracts and libel are involved. He is not speaking of the legal system taking on cases where someone has been mistreated. But on a personal level, we are to understand the true nature of a bitter spirit. Note three elements in the nature of bitterness.
A. The Sinful nature of Bitterness
Bitterness is a sin. Ephesians 4:31 contains a command that we are to get rid of all bitterness. Some people, in some circumstances, feel they are justified in holding a grudge; however, the Bible makes it clear that holding a grudge is against the will and command of the Lord for a believer.
B. The Satanic nature of Bitterness
We need to understand that Satan is the accuser and he never allows an accusation to go unmentioned. When you are an accuser, you are in league with the devil. When someone has hurt you personally, and you allow a root of bitterness to grow up in your heart, you are working with the forces of darkness. Look at I John 2:9 which reads, “Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness.”
C. The Shameful nature of Bitterness
Bitterness is shameful for a Christian because it keeps us from revealing the forgiveness we have received from Christ. Think of what our sins did to our Lord, yet He was not bitter toward us. He told us to love the way He loves.
II. THE COURSE OF BITTERNESS
Bitterness is the result of our feeling that we have been hurt, that somehow we have not been treated fairly and that the person or persons responsible for the hurt have not been made to pay for it. Paul describes bitterness as following a course or pattern involving four parts.
A. The Poison
The word bitterness speaks of a poison. Indeed, bitterness is a poison in the emotions of a person. Just as poisoned food brings pain to the stomach and physical system of a human being, so bitterness brings pain to the emotions and can lead to physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social problems on a monumental scale if not dealt with properly.
B. The Passion
The next word in the text speaks of the passion that builds up with one allows bitterness to take root in the heart. Bitterness may be vented toward people or toward God. One woman, for example, who survived the sinking of the Titanic, but whose husband died on the great ship, became very bitter toward God. She said, “God went down with the Titanic.”
I have heard that Ted Turner has a similar problem. When he was young, his sister became very ill. He prayed for God to heal her but she died. He turned against God and even today mocks Christians and makes fun of us. He became bitter toward God.
It is far more likely that we become embittered against people who hurt us or treat us unfairly. This creates a passion in us that rises up like a flame in our hearts from time-to-time.
C. The Punishment
The third phase of the course of bitterness is punishment. There is a desire in us to see the person or persons punished who have hurt us. We want them to pay for what they have done. We may even try to exact the punishment ourselves. This has led to physical violence, including murder. If unchecked, bitterness may erupt at any time and cause harm that you cannot later undo.
D. The Publicity
The final phase is publicity. The person who is bitter begins to make known their feelings through punishment or because they just cannot be silent. Criticism, hatred and all manner of evil speaking comes from this phase of bitterness.
Perhaps the worst thing that can come from bitterness beyond the damage it can do to our own hearts, is our effect upon the lost and our corruption of the saved. Look at Hebrews 12:15, “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Sadly, many do miss the grace of God and/or are defiled by a root of bitterness which has sprung to full growth in the life of a child of God.
III. THE CONFESSION OF BITTERNESS
Romans 12:17-19 states, “Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” We must confess bitterness as a sin.
A. Confront it in your Heart
Be honest with God about this matter. Bitterness begins in the hidden recesses of your heart. It creates a climate for hatred and anger. It is a sin against a holy God. It defies His Word and defeats His will.
B. Cleanse it from your Soul
Cleanse if from your soul by confessing it to the Lord. Only He can forgive and only He can give you peace in this matter. Tell God the truth about this sin and turn from it.
C. Keep it from your Future
You might say, “Well enough, I can forgive but I cannot forget.” The truth is that you must keep plucking up the root each time it tries to grow. How do you do this? You remember that Jesus forgave you. He could have held all your sins against you but He did not. If He could forgive you, can you not forgive others. Has anyone ever treated you as badly as we have treated Jesus? No! Yet, many still want to hold a grudge and feel justified in doing so. May God help us to lay down the burden of bitterness!
One way to deal with bitterness is to create a mental file folder in your mind. When the thought of hurt comes to you, pull out that mental folder holding the file against that person and mark it, “Paid in Full.” Every time the hurt arises again, mentally pull out the folder and note that you forgave the debt and mentally close the folder up and put it away. Just think of how God forgave you. He has written, “Paid in Full,” on your account through the blood Jesus. We can and should do the same for others.
Now, let me say something important at this point. I know that I cannot possibly identify with the pain some of you deal with. You may have experienced physical, sexual or mental abuse beyond that which any of us can understand. But, your bitterness only hurts you. It keeps you from enjoying life. To hold on to it only gives the person who hurt you the ability to continue to harm you through your own bitterness. Rest in the arms of Jesus. Let His forgiveness of you help you practice that same forgiveness of others. I know what some of you are thinking: “Yes, I am forgiven because I confessed and asked for it. The person who hurt me has never done that.” Yes, that is perhaps true, but the forgiveness God gives you is already available before you ask. If you heart is set to forgive, you can live in peace even when the person has not asked for it.
God wants you to have victory over bitterness. You can climb above it and beyond it. Let me share a biblical example.
Joseph is the perfect example of how we are to react when we are hurt by those we love or trust. His own brothers decided to kill him. They changed their minds and threw him into a pit. Then they took him out of the pit and sold him into slavery. He became a servant in Egypt. He was imprisoned on trumped up charges. In was in that prison for years. Image the bitterness that may have built up inside him in all those years.
Later, Joseph he was elevated to the position as Prime Minister of Egypt. His brothers came to Egypt, not knowing that Joseph was there, that he was alive and certainly not knowing that he was so important. What did Joseph do when he had those brothers in his hand? He loved them, blessed them and forgave them. He said, as recorded in Genesis 50:20, “You meant it for harm, but God meant it for good.” Yes!!! When you can trust God with your welfare and well being, He will take that which was meant for harm and make it turn out good. Just read Romans 8:28! But, if you try to extract revenge, or hold hard feelings in your heart, you will never truly enjoy the blessings God gives you. You arrows of hatred will fall on your own heads.
An ancient Roman story goes that the soldiers of Caesar became dissatisfied with their regimen and rations. They knew they could not complain to Caesar, so they became angry with the gods. Many of them shot their arrows toward the heavens, hoping to hit the gods. Several of the soldiers were wounded or killed as their own arrows fell back on them.
Right now, in this service, write “Paid in Full” on the hurt that is in your heart. Sure, it will rise up again to haunt you, but you can go back and remember that you took care of that. You can slide the file back into a corner and go on with your life. You can trust God to help you and to use even those awful moments to make you all He means for you to be.
Most importantly, make peace with God. If you have never trusted Him, turn to Him now. He forgives sin through the blood of His Son. Our Lord poured out His blood in sacrifice for our sins. Accept His forgiveness and forgive as He forgave!
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